Marriage is always a work in progress.

Hey everyone, happy Monday

 

I’ve been thinking recently as a number of my friends are settling down or trying to settle down about how lucky I am. I have been told by several people recently that I am so lucky that I have found the one and that my marriage is successful and that most importantly, we get along. This discovery hit me hard for a few reasons. First, marriage is the hardest thing in the world and to people who think Sophie and I get along all the time, I am here to tell you, we don’t. We fight a lot we argue a lot we disagree a lot. However, that does not mean we don’t love each other or care for each other deeply. Secondly, ironically enough, I am not a believer in the notion of finding “the one”. I don’t think Sophie and I are meant for each other because of some outside force known as the one, I think we work really hard to make our marriage work, but I also think us being friends first helped set a foundation for a healthy relationship with effective communication.  We also have tremendous respect for our passions even though we may not have certain common interests. Yes, we both like art and cinema and love a lot of the same things, but we also have a lot of differences. We mutually respect each other’s interest. Finally, I don’t want my friends to think we are just lucky that we work. I am very grateful that we do but I also know Sophie and I are rare in that we were really close before we got together. As anyone who knows me or reads my blog knows, we are in counseling and it has helped a tremendous amount but it’s always a work in progress.  I love my wife more than anything and I will do absolutely anything for her, but it is my no means an easy relationship

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